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What If This Were Enough? Essays I've been a fan of Heather Havrilesky since the prehistoric days of the internet when she was writing for Suckcom An ancient past when my pre work routine would consist of reading long form stories called blogs back when paragraphs weren't so intimidating Thankfully our modern era sensitive to our time constraints has since concentrated my mornings to scrolling memes instagram pics and 140 character tweets Heather is smart and acerbic and I love her voice she writes like I imagine I one day could wry observations heaped with the gloss of 10 dollar words Unfortunately I fear I've started with the wrong book It's still her erudite and cutting wit applied to the mundanity of everyday life but it veers too close to earnest screed It's easy pickings decrying the capitalist fantasies of Fifty Shades or the insufferability of foodies Disneyland and Crossfitters To claim we need to get out and online less But unfettered by the constraints of blogging and fleeting online attention free to truly flex in book form the chapters can tend to the baggy Things used to have to be tighter or maybe my attention has just shrunk Maybe in this environment I need my reasonable edicts to be delivered as precise ranting screeds eviscerating polemics that point and laugh at the misguided other in 1000 words or less insert appropriate gif meme here I was so excited for this but in the end I couldn't even finish it I felt like I got permission after the author's bizarre anti library comments on twitter I get that wasn't the point she was trying to make but much like this book it came across convoluted entitled and annoying I didn't even finish the last uarter I couldn't do it Heather Havrilesky is an advice columnist and also known for her previous memoir How to be a Person in the World The essays are a mixture of advice for living and pop culture sometimes in strange combinations One compares Selin in The Idiot by Elif Batuman to Mozart which I didn't really think worked all that well and I've read a lot about Mozart and loved The Idiot As per usual with this kind of book some of it didn't interest me at all often pop culture type essays of things I haven't watched and I did a fair amount of skimming Towards the end I found myself really enjoying a few of the essays So while I'm giving it three stars overall I will say I think there are a few that are stellar Part of my issue with the book overall is that Heather Havrilesky comes across as overly didactic I prefer to draw my own conclusions from information presented to me and I don't like being told what to do I suppose this is her advice columnist background really shining through But something about this tone also makes her sound like she is around retirement age and I get the impression she's a few decades younger than that Kids these days get off my lawn etcThe first chapter I really liked is Haunted which yes I noticed is number 13 It starts with a focus on author Shirley Jackson zooms through female characters in tv and refocuses on Lena Dunham and her HBO show Girls A uote near the beginning sums it upFor headstrong women who knew their own desires growing up in conventional society sometimes feels like inhabiting a haunted houseI found it to be even relevant within the #metoo movement and of course she does reference the Stanford rapist's victim's letter which had a pretty significant place in the larger discussion Another favorite is Bravado a chapter which looks at women and ambition It discusses the ridiculousness of the men or others in power who think of themselves as idea generators but do zero work and how they get the credit and focus while there are armies of capable women making it happen hashtag makeithappen for my library peeps It uestions why we downplay people who are capable people who aren't necessarily making bold moves but are solid and productive She ends with a call to belief in oneself and in the idea that our words matter A little dramatic but I had to agree I'm not ashamed to say I will be adding some uotations from this chapter to my planner at workI also liked the chapter called True Romance which makes a capable and productive argument for the mundane parts of longlasting relationships I received a copy of this book ahead of publication date from the publisher through Edelweiss in exchange for an honest review It came out 2 October 2018 DNF after a few chapters I was willing to give this a chance after her weird library Twitter kerfuffle I do generally like Ask Polly but the first few essays were soo very remember what it was like before we all used our PHONES so much? that I felt free to just nope on out of this and return it to the library from whence it came the last essay I read before I uit was about how she used to be very grumpy about the concept of Disneyland because it's so fake but then she took their kids there and had a good time but then she was grumpy again afterward because it was so fake okay Heather cool story I guess Last night after watching the first episode of Babylon Berlin I fell asleep to the police scannerA spurned ex also a sex offender had abducted and blown a bullet through the brain of a University of Utah student and dumped her body in a parking lotI work at the University of UtahMy brother goes to the University and texted me the alerts from New OrleansHeather Havrilesky understands this cultural moment — the way that at its worst we can pipe in our worst nightmares directly to our frontal lobes until we collapse from exhaustion — at a spiritual levelAs I finished this essay collection on the bus going up Highland Drive then 1300 East a rainbow appeared out the window which is definitely not a sign from God that now we'll pass sensible gun control laws because this nation hates women than it loves guns to uote BoJack Horseman S4 but was lovely nonethelessAnd below it was a billboardFor Fat Boy ice cream sandwichesWith the hashtag#YouDeserveIt You deserve it you worthless collection of sentient nuclei every moment of anxiety and self doubt and nagging sense if you log into Tinder that you could be bludgeoned in an alley and someone somewhere would wonder what you were wearingHooray cardboard like ice cream sandwichesI looked at the Smokes Vapors shop to my right the Nielsen's frozen custard shop to my left and suddenly everything seemed pointless and ugly in a way I think Havrilesky would recognize as validThen I came to her final essay with its highlight of Angle of Repose as among the accomplishments that make life feel worth livingAnd it came together why she got itI knew from her Ask Polly column and How to Be a Person in the World that like Wallace Stegner like me she had lost a parent in her mid twentiesThat changes you I've hit year six of the After and I see every day the subtle ways it shapes your consciousnessAt its best it can make you open hearted attuned to life's fragility and therefore its beautyAt its worst it can crush you in your loneliness in how lost you feel at 25 26 30 on a road where you feel largely aloneI realized my bus was on a road Stegner himself traveled often and yet again I felt so luckyI got off at my stop for my writing group took the Draw as they call it under 1300 East from Sugar House Park to the shopping center And this park Hidden Hollow which when I was a child was mostly known for drug paraphernalia felt storybook beautifulThe late afternoon sun broke through the golden leaves and kids were playing on the bridge and I thought prompted by the sum total of Heather's philosophyWhat if these are in fact the best conditions in which to write? What if being a writer is what I was meant to be all along?As if to hammer home the book's points a sign in the Hollow referenced Appreciating messiness and a uote by City Parks Idealist R E Sleater from 1922 laid out its vision fornatural rather than artificial beauty This didn't feel like empty Rousseauian nonsense to me at that moment It felt like women have been routinely silenced ignored even slaughtered and I was connected to a smart funny and weird one through something she invented in her mindStegner was from a poverty riddled background He spent time in an orphanage in Seattle He didn't seem destined for literary greatness He worked his way through the University of Utah in a tile storeHe thought he might just sell tile the rest of his life; it was the belief of a handful of professors who believed in him that set him on his pathHe wasn't particularly religious but had an unwavering faith in himselfI emerged from the Hollow to my well trod corner of suburbia specifically Whole Foods which I freuent because it takes Apple Pay and I like it and it was on the wayMy notes for this review were stained with pepperoni grease and I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor was piped inIt felt like second wave feminism was giving the finger to the forces trying to destroy women before death inevitably comes for us allWe can't crumple we can't lay down and dieAnother dessert another hashtag#makesmewholeI mean can an apple galette solve this? Probs not but it did look tastyThe piano player's playing 'This Must Be the Place' And it's a miracle to be aliveNo angel came and told Stegner or Havrilesky they had to write to avenge the injustices of unstable childhoods and dead parents through spilled inkIt feels even noble in a way that they just did itI'm glad they didStegner wrote this in It Is the Love of Books I Owe ThemI am coming along Thirteenth East on my way to an eight o’clock class It is a marvelous morning – it is always a marvelous morning whether the air is hazy with autumn and the oakbrush on the Wasatch has gone bronze and gold or whether the chestnut trees along the street are coned with blossoms I am enveloped in a universal friendliness I turn at the drugstore on Second South and start uphill toward the Park Building at the head of the U driveLaura McCluskey's vigil is at the Park Building I'm reading those last pages of All the Little Live Things and I can't stop the tearsI think Heather would understand 35 rounded upAn overall incredibly solid collection of essays focusing mainly on pop culture celebrity tv books and movies and the author's life mostly revolving around her familyThe pop culture essays remind me at times of the better essays in They Can't Kill Us Until They Kill Us Havrilesky covers topics as wide ranging as The Sopranos Elif Batuman's The Idiot Girls Entourage and Marie Kondo While the essays were a little overly didactic at times I found myself enjoying and getting something out of almost all of them and they were all thought provoking Recommended While I really enjoyed Heather Havrilesky's last book of essays this one left me scratching my head as to what the point of these essays was supposed to be The book's jacket informs us that many of the essays have been expanded so that might be the first major problem as many of these essays go on too long and often deviate from the main topic The title of this book led me to believe the essays would be focusing on being appreciative of the things we have yet most of it is made up of stories meant to criticize and judge the world around us without bringing up anything new or enlightening towards each subject Disneyland is fake and commercialself help gurus are in it for the money and self promotion gee you don't say? I didn't find any of the humor and sharp observations from her previous essays in fact this one makes the author come off as unrelatable and entitled I was planning on giving the book three stars but as I write this I find myself struggling to come up with anything to recommend about it 15 stars that I’ll round up because it takes A LOT for me to give a book one star Reading this I wondered if essay books aren’t for me since this is the second one this year I’ve immensely disliked but then I remembered how much I loved “Not That Bad” by Roxanne Gay and I realized that this book is just bad The author sounds entitled and elitist She was also really annoyingI read this book because it was my book club’s November pick My library didn’t have it so I paid 16 on This was my main motivating factor to not abandon it since I paid FULL PRICE The only positive part was the beautiful artwork on the cover Unfortunately what was inside of it wasn’t worth what it was printed on in my opinion Pass By the author of the New York Times Love and Relationships bestseller How to Be a Person in the World an impassioned and inspiring collection about the expectations of modern life and the sweet imperfections of the everydayHeather Havrilesky's writing has been called whip smart and profanely funny Entertainment Weekly and reuired reading for all humans Celeste Ng In her work for New York The Baffler The New York Times Magazine and The Atlantic as well as in her advice column for The Cut Ask Polly she dispenses a singular cutting wisdom an ability to inspire provoke and put a name to our most insidious cultural delusions What If This Were Enough is a mantra and a clarion call In its chapters many of them original to the book others expanded from their initial publication Havrilesky takes on those cultural forces that shape us From the enforced cheer of American life to the celebration of survivalism from the allure of materialism to our misunderstandings of romance and success Havrilesky deconstructs some of the most poisonous and misleading messages we ingest today all the while suggesting new ways we might navigate our increasingly bewildering worldThrough her incisive and witty inuiries Havrilesky emphasizes the importance of locating the miraculous within the mundane In these timely provocative and often hilarious chapters she urges readers to embrace the flawed to connect with what already is who we already are what we already have She asks us to consider What if this were enough Our salvation Havrilesky asserts can be found right here right now in this imperfect moment I really enjoy Havrilesky’s advice column and was surprised to find myself feeling lukewarm to most of the essays in this collection These range from memoirs to self help which made the collection feel a bit unorganized at times

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